Posts Tagged ‘dating’

 

Create a Better Dating Experience in Just Minutes: Nine Dating Tips

Tuesday, August 16th, 2011

It’s usually the first 10 minutes into a date that one or both parties will make a determination as to whether a second date will eventuate, hence setting up the tone for the remainder of the date. But is this a wise frame of mind to in?

An Australian women’s magazine polled their readers which consisted of 2200 respondents, the published results indicated that 83% of first dates never make it past this initial stage. Relationships expert, Diane Bishop said, “Most people make the mistake of overlooking a potential love interest if there are no sparks or romantic signals within the very early stages of the date, even if your date is a nice person but offered no initial romantic attraction, sometimes it’s worth pursuing a second date to determine if a person could potentially develop into something more.”

With my job as a matchmaking advisor, people usually tend to waste golden opportunities rather than use these interactions as a learning curb, to find out more about other people and themselves. Any date or interaction you experience, on any level, should be considered part of your journey, not a waste of time.

1. Don’t be negative because of past experiences. Even though your last few dates might be described as non-eventful does not mean you should take this attitude into the next time you’re dating somebody new. “I really hope this guy likes me” instead of “here we go again, another bad date”, always keep an open mind, you’ll be in a far better head space to determine how you might feel about him. Give it your best chance to succeed, not your worst.

2. Try and come up with 3 simple things you like or admire about him rather than nit picking from the outset as most people tend to do. Even something simple like the way he dresses, the restaurant venue he chose or his level of eye contact: What do you like about him? 

3. Offer a compliment. You can play your part in settling the nerves of your date thus setting up a far more enjoyable evening. Watch and see how quickly he loosens up when you pay him a simple compliment, you’ll get to see what he’s really like much sooner, and besides, a compliment is a nice gesture.

4. Think of it as practice. Use the experiences as a way to improve your people person skills until Mr. I love you finally makes his appearance. Dating a wide variety of people only makes you a sounder judge of character.

5. Leave your agenda behind. If the guy your dating does not do it for you within the first 10 – 15 minutes of meeting, it’s time to go into second phase mode. There’s a wealth of possibilities that can crop up. By limiting your outlook, you could very well miss opportunities such as meeting a new network of friends, or even a business opportunity. Either way, there could be some other significant message you can take away from the experience. What have you got to lose, you’re already there so make the most of it.

6. Ask him questions: But be selective with the topics you discuss. Don’t start complaining about all the bad dates you’ve gone on, or how your ex won’t stop stalking you – nobody likes a drama queen. Pick up the phone conversation where you left off, “Tell me a bit more about the places you visited on your trip to Australia.”

7. Ignore the little voices in your head. The one’s that try to tell you that you’re not good enough for this guy, or this date is a total waste of time and energy. Please, keep reminding yourself that it’s an opportunity you don’t want to miss, so hang in there and see what you can get out of the date.

8. It’s not about control. You’re there to find out about the person you’re dating, not yourself. Refrain from trying to read his mind or analyze his thoughts – just relax and go with the flow.

9. Be empathetic and kind. There’s every chance the person your with has the same levels of insecurities as yourself. Try and not get caught up with some assumption that you think you wouldn’t be able to live with, don’t pre-empt something too soon, give him a fighting chance to grow on you. And no matter how the date ends, make sure he feels good about himself, and not a total reject if sparks don’t fly, and in doing so, you’ll spread good karma too.

It’s part of human nature to long for a life time partner, someone you can share a deeper sense of understanding with, a sense of trust and love. So until this person comes into your life, offer the other people who come in and out of your life the utmost respect, this is the kind of attitude that pays off in the long run.

About the author: Matt Fuller is a matchmaking consultant and relationships author. Matt writes about topics relating to free online dating sites for single people as well as singles dating sites reviews.

Flip Mode: Advantages of Being Cheated On

Friday, August 12th, 2011

Being cheated on is not a winning game. It means you’ve been intentionally misled, deceived, or otherwise tricked so that somebody else could take advantage of a situation involving you. Politicians cheat each other and their constituents as part of their jobs; most of us cheat on the way to work in traffic or in a wily business call aimed to benefit shareholders. It’s downright unfair, and so is the world at large. But sometimes a blunt shove in a new direction is what we need to get some peace of mind. Without asserting that being cheated on feels great, this article aims to demonstrate that there are advantages to having been cheated on–namely, enlightened perspectives, a stronger sense of yourself, and a transformed understanding of relationship fundamentals.

The first requirement for pulling yourself out from under the wrong side of the affair is to get your self-worth, dignity, and pride back, because each gets rightly shot down upon realization of a lover’s illicit affair. (This step also applies to getting over a hefty parking ticket, but you’ve got to start somewhere.) And before going too far down the rabbit hole of haughtiness, consider this: it’s easier to overcome being cheated if you take yourself out of the equation. This act is not only rejuvenating and liberating, but also a great step toward compassion and empathy. Recently, readers commented on Mark Oppenheimer’s “Infidelitorial” in the NY Times, offering fresh takes on marriage and infidelity. Richard, from Weston, CT, believes that the reason people split after an affair “is rooted more in the bruised ego of the spouse who is uninvolved than any focus on the value of the relationship,” and that infidelity is symptomatic of a deeper problem in the relationship than the root of all evil. Johnny, a 29-year-old New Yorker, points out that plenty of socialites boast their successes to eager ingénues thusly: “Years back the book ‘Open Marriage‘ came out telling us to share our spouse with others for a better marriage. Ten years later the same husband and wife authors espoused ‘The New Fidelity’ of staying true to one’s spouse.” The driving point is that the further inside our psyches we step, the less we can properly advance based on someone else’s experiences or suggestions.

Stephanie Coontz also contributes to the Times–her book, “Marriage, a History (From Obedience to Intimacy, or How Love Conquered Marriage)” spins a lengthy yarn around the history of marriage’s ring finger. From blindly arranged marriages to the contemporary Super Spouse–epitomized as the Sun and all the stars in the Heavens–perspective plays a dominating role in the interplay of relationships. The more one plunges into the annals of the institution, the easier it becomes to see that “when we rely on our partners for everything, any hint of betrayal is terrifying,” and Coontz thinks this is our national problem: we accord too much sanctity and authority to the monogamous relationship. Under such dogmatic circumstances, it’s borderline heretical to condone a partner’s engagement with the occasional floozie, let alone extensive affairs.

Back to what counts: our relationship with the one we’re with, and not the one they might have on the side. Oppenheimer himself reminds his readers that “our actions mark us as a compassionate people, that in truth we are always ready to forgive an adulterer, except the one we are married to.” Chicagoan Lowell D. Thompson delves deeper: “the real issue is not monogamy vs. polygamy, it’s integrity vs. hypocrisy…any time we make promises we don’t keep and then expect others to keep theirs there’s trouble ahead.” We’ve been cheated out of navigating ourselves through an inconceivably confusing world in lieu of superficially pleasant interactions and empty assurances. Being cheated on is a massive kick in the pants, but humans are masters at recovery. “The cultural expectation, Coontz reminds us, “should be if there’s infidelity, the marriage is more important than fidelity,” because when acceptance outgrows cynicism and egotism, society blossoms with integrity and foresight.

Lauren Allende is a Los Angeles based blogger/journalist, writing for Gleeden about all things relationships. Please contact Lauren at [email protected] for coverage of topics relating to extramarital dating online

10 Ways To Start Dating Your Friend

Sunday, July 31st, 2011
Okay so this is a classic. We all like the emotional stuff like being friends first and then romance or you just fell in love with each other and so on. And it isreally nice to be in love with someone with whom you can also share a friendship. right? But how do you go about getting there? Here are some tips which may help you on this journey. Be cautious.

1. Ground Rules.

First, make sure this is really what you want? And also place some ground rules that your friendship still continues even if the romance did not sparkle or can you do without having a good friend around? If this is clear as mud, bring up this topic in a off-the-cuff discussion and see what your friend says?

2. Coffee.

There is so much you can discuss over a simple coffee. Depending on your friendship, go out for coffee and see how it goes. If there is sparkle, you will know.

3. Dress Up.

If you are casual friends, you may not have seen each other dressed up. So dress up to impress and see what reaction you get.

4. Make Over.

If you have been thinking about getting a makeover, take your friend along for suggestions. In a funny way, see what transpires and what vibes you get. Does the friend suggest ‘funny looks’ or ‘looks to impress’ and that will tell the story.

5. Clothes Shopping.

Okay this is a no-brainer. You go shopping for clothes, obviously you have decent chemistry. See what each other suggests for the other person and see what chemistry develops. While at it, go after some accessories too and get an opinion on that as well. However, stay away from lingerie just yet:)

6. Straight Up
Just ask the other person out. Tell them you value your friendship but have developed some romantic feelings and would like to go out on a date – let the date be casual but give it an official name of a date. If you do not want to lose their friendship regardless of how the romance goes, be clear about it so you dont lose a good friend.

7. Be Different

If you are only ‘coffee’ friends or friends who go watch the latest movie together or bar friends, change the routine. Be different. Pick a different activity and see if the other person enjoys as much spending time with you.

8. Be in the Know.

Short of being an aggressive intruder, see what your friend is upto. What they like to do when you are not around, who they hang out with. It will give you an idea about their life and see if you can figure something out in common.

9. Get involved socially

Pick a social activity to do together. Like volunteering, or neighborhood cleanup, or something community oriented. See if there is mutual interest and/or sparkle.

10. Laugh it out Loud
Tell a funny story related to this topic and see how they react. Like what do you think about having two friends getting romantically involved? Have a discussion about it and see what happens.

8 Signs Your Relationship May be Over

Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

Finding the right partner in life is hard in just the finding.  But once you become a couple sometimes the fire sputters or goes completely cold.   Here’s a few big clues to the end of your latest era.

1.    Cheat
Either you or your other is cheating and/or caught cheating.  If you both cared for each other cheating would never come into the equation.  True, some relationships can survive a cheat, but few do.

2.    Jealousy
Not exactly jealous of each other, but jealous of other couples’ relationships.  If you or your partner feels everyone else’s relationship is better than yours, it’s a sign that moving on is something you need to consider.  Why stick in a relationship where you feel less than special and loved?

3.    It’s Tiring
You used to love to spend time together, but now it’s just a burden to find time to do so.  If you don’t want to spend time with your “better half” there really is no reason to be in the relationship.

4.    The Future
Any sort of future planning that requires a serious commitment is too difficult to agree upon.  If this is the case there probably is no real long term future.  I’m not talking marriage either, it could just be planning a vacation together, or getting tickets to a how six months from now.  This could also mean you or your partner takes their stuff back to their place.

5.    The Fuzzies
Those warm fuzzy feelings are few and far between.  You used to get those goosebumps every time you saw, or even thought of your partner, now it’s just flat and maybe there’s a small overtone of resentment.  This is a a precursor to the detachment that many of us require when we are ready to cut the chord.

6.    The Friends
Relationships are works in progress, and often your partner’s friends are a big part of figuring out how things will progress. If you can’t stand their friends and make not true effort to work on that, then there isn’t really much of a chance of things lasting.

7.    The Sex
There was a time when it was exciting and fun, but now it’s nonexistent or just no fun.  If you can’t remember the last time you had sex, there’s a good chance your dry spell is about to get even longer.

8.    The Nag
Nothing you ever do is right.  Your partner finds fault in just about everything you do and never finds the time to acknowledge when you do right.  You nag too much, you don’t clean well enough, you’re in their business too much, you don’t text enough and so on.  While you continue to try to make it right it’s already over in your soon to be former partner’s mind.

How to respond to: “It’s Not You, It’s Me”

Monday, July 11th, 2011

You know you’ve either said it before, or you have it said to you.  It’s one of the biggest cop-out things anyone could ever hear when a breakup is happening: “It’s Not You, It’s me”.  This has motivated me to come up with a top ten list of things to SAY BACK when someone says it to you.

Are you ready?  Here are the Top Ten things to respond back with when someone tells you “It’s Not You, It’s Me”:

 

  1. “You’re right, It IS you, NOT me”

 

  1. “Finally you figured it out was you. I was beginning to think you were stupid!”

 

  1. “No need to be hard on yourself.  Not everyone is as overweight and ugly as you are.  It takes time. I’m glad you finally figured it out you had an issue”

 

  1. “I spoke to your mom last night. She said the same thing.”

 

  1. “Wow, I think we finally agree on something”

 

  1. “I invented that line. You are not allowed to say it! I’ll give you one more chance to come up with a better reason or I’m just going to dump you”

 

  1. “The only thing that is YOU is the big pimple on your forehead.  Now that’s YOU”

 

  1. “Thank You very much for telling me something I didn’t know. Can you pay for our dinner now since that’s the only thing you’re good for”

 

  1. “I’m sorry. What did you say?  I thought I heard you say you finally recognize how big of an idiot you are.  But that’s probably impossible, so can you repeat what you said please??”

 

  1. “You didn’t have to tell me that out loud. I knew you are having some major problems getting it up, and that’s all I needed to see.  Do you want me to get you some help?”

 This is a guest post by the author at http://blog.postamigos.com/

8 Signs You May be Getting Cheated on

Friday, July 8th, 2011

Here are a lot of signs you can read into to figure out if your partner is cheating on you.  While it always hurts when you realize someone you love isn’t being honest; it’s always better to find out sooner rather than later.  Here’s a list of my top 8.

1. Nagging

If, all of the sudden, your partner begins nagging you for every little thing, there’s a chance they have a nagging feeling of guilt that makes them need to lash out at you. Constant nagging, after a relatively nag free relationship is a huge clue.

2. Deflection

You used to be able to have a conversation without your partner trying to NOT answer simple questions.  Now, they become defensive for what would seem to be no reason.  A huge key to this is when you ask them a question and they hesitate or repeat the question back to you.  This usually means they are trying to come up with a plausible answer.

3. Priorities

Your relationship used to be the center of the universe and you had many implied dates set for each week.  Now, your partner is finding less and less time to spend with you and more with their new affair.

4. Sexy is back

You may like your partner just the way they are, but that won’t stop them from trying to dazzle their new fling. Just as you tried to impress each other at the beginning of your relationship, they’ll try to impress their new flame with a sudden urge to improve their style, and alter their physical appearance for the new fling in their life. So, while their desire to look sexier is one thing, not caring about your opinion on the matter is quite another.

5. Autonomy

One of the biggest signs they’re cheating on you is their breaking away from your little two-person unit to become more autonomous. He has dropped “we” from his vocabulary in favor of “I.” Moreover, he does more things on his own and stops consulting you about future plans. In short, he conducts himself in ways that hint that he no longer needs you to hold his hand. Whether he’s hoping you’ll leave him or simply looking for more time to lead his “double life,” it’s safe to conclude that he wants you out of the picture — he just can’t build up the nerve to leave you.

6. No Sex

When your relationship was new, the two of you were full of passion and open to spontaneous lovemaking. Now it’s all a bit iffy, whereby you’re rarely hitting the sheets and you’re only doing so if and when she feels like it.

On a slightly more ego-bashing note, she may suddenly become bored by your performance and appear to be thinking about someone else when you do make love. Cheating may be wrong, but you can’t deny that unlawful sex is usually more exhilarating. So, if you can no longer satisfy her sexually, someone else may be rubbing her the right way.

7. Secretive Schedule

He may claim to no longer have time for any extracurricular activities with you, yet he has one foot out the door the minute one of his friends calls. Either that or he has been “going away on business” one too many times. And when he does leave, his whereabouts are sketchy at best and you are somehow always the last to know.

Disclosing his itinerary to you at the last minute and overlooking your plans in the process can mean many things, one of which isn’t that he’s forgetting, but rather leaving you out.

8. Family Detachment

The fact that he no longer wants to attend your family’s functions or hang with your friends is one of our signs he’s cheating on you. This sign may be indicative of cheater’s remorse on his part, which means that he likely feels guilty about cheating. The less he immerses himself in your circles (which contain people who are painful reminders of his sins), the less mental anguish he’ll have to endure.

 

So what did we miss? What are some of your signs that you can tell someone has been unfaithful?

100 Hilarious pickup lines

Thursday, June 30th, 2011

A fun list of lines to try out on your next unknowing victim.  Seriously try them; at the very least you’ll get a laugh.

You’re so pretty…

You’re so beautiful that you made me forget my pickup line.

You’d better direct that beauty somewhere else, you’ll set the carpet on fire.

If beauty were time, you’d be eternity.

I was so enchanted by your beauty that I ran into that wall over there. So I am going to need your name and number for insurance purposes.

Do you have a twin sister? Then you must be the most beautiful girl in the world!

Short and sweet

Be unique and different, say yes.

You’ll do.

Can I even get a fake number?

This time next year let’s be laughing together.

I’d look good on you.

St. Patty’s Day (all said with a bad Irish brogue)

I ain’t got four leaves, but if you pluck me, I’ll give you luck!

If you don’t sleep with me, the leprechauns have already won!

You look magically delicious, and I just happen to be a cereal lovemaker.

Well, ye caught me, lass! Now I can grant ye one wish, as long as it involves sex.

Why don’t you come catch a leprechaun with me? Maybe together we’ll get Lucky!

Sweetness

Baby, you’re so sweet, you put Hershey’s outta business.

Ouch! My tooth hurts! [Why?] Because you are soooo sweet!

I just had to come talk with you. Sweetness is my weakness.

Clever

I’m sorry, were you talking to me? [No] Well then, please start.

How much does a polar bear weigh? [How much?] Enough to break the ice… Hi, I’m (insert name here).

Hi, my name is Doug. That’s “god” spelled backwards with a little bit of you wrapped up in it. (Hopefully your name really is Doug)

(Ask a person for the time) 9:15? So today is May 1, 2008, at 9:15 PM, thanks I just wanted to be able to remember the exact moment that I met the woman/man of my dreams.

Well, I AM telepathic, and I can tell that you love me. Right? [NO!] Darn, I always get “love” and “lust” mixed up.

My buddies over there said that I wouldn’t be able to start a conversation with the most beautiful girl in the bar. Wanna buy some drinks with some of their money?

Say “I bet I can kiss you on the lips without touching you.” and kiss him, then tell him you lost the bet.

I want to tell you your fortune. [Take her hand and write your phone number on it.] Your future is clear.

Famous

I’m not trying to impress you or anything, but… I’m Batman!

Bond….James Bond

Alcohol

Am I cute enough yet? Or do you need more to drink?

You know the more I drink, the prettier you get!

This isn’t a beer belly; It’s a fuel tank for a love machine.

I’m not drunk; I’m just intoxicated by you.

Here’s $10. Drink until I am really good looking, then come and talk to me.

Your Eyes

Your eyes are as blue as window cleaner.

I never need to see the sun again because your eyes light up my world.

Your eyes are bluer than the Atlantic ocean, and baby I’m lost at sea!

I don’t know which is prettier today, the water, the sky or your eyes.

But your Butt

Are those space pants? Because your ass is out of this world!

[Point at her ass] Pardon me, is this seat taken?

Is that a keg in your pants? Cause I’d just love to tap that ass!

The Beach

I’ll show you my tan lines if you show me yours. 88

Sex on the mind

The word of the day is “legs.” Let’s go back to my place and spread the word.

That outfit would look great in a crumpled heap on my bedroom floor tomorrow morning.

I like every bone in your body especially mine.

Baby I’m like milk; I’ll do your body good.

I’ve got the F, the C, and the K. All I need is U.

Was your Father…?

a mechanic? Then how did you get such a finely tuned body?

king for a day? He must have been to make a princess like you.

a baker? Because you’ve got a nice set of buns.

an alien? Because there’s nothing else like you on Earth

a thief? ‘Cause someone stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes.

Crude and a little rude

Wow! Are those real?

Are your parents retarded, ’cause you sure are special.

I may not be the best-looking guy in here, but I’m the only one talking to you.

[you] Excuse me, would you like to dance? [them] NO! [you] Maybe u didn’t hear me…. I said u look really fat in those pants!

Excuse me, but does this smell like chloroform to you?

You don’t sweat much for a fat chick.

Hot/Heat

Ya know, you look really hot! You must be real reason for global warming.

You’re so hot you would make the devil sweat.

Are you a tamale? ‘Cause you’re hot.

Baby, you’re so hot, you make the equator look like the north pole.

How is your fever? [What fever?] Oh… you just look hot to me.

You’re so hot; I bet you could light a candle at 10 paces.

You know I’d like to invite you over, but I’m afraid you’re so hot you’ll skyrocket my air-conditioning bill.

Is your name Summer? ‘Cause you are as hot as hell.

You’re hotter than donut grease.

Cheesy

You may fall from the sky, you may fall from a tree, but the best way to fall… is in love with me.

Excuse me, but I’m new in town, can I have directions to your place?

Are you an overdue book? Because you’ve got FINE written all over you!

All those curves! And me with no brakes!

I would say God bless you but it looks like he already did.

Just plain funny

Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?

Well, here I am. What were your other two wishes?

You know what? Your eyes are the same color as my Porsche.

You see my friend over there? [Point to friend] He wants to know if YOU think I’M cute.

You know how they say skin is the largest organ on the human body? Not in my case.

People call me John, but you can call me Tonight!

Computer Geek

You can put a Trojan on my hard drive any time.

How about we do a little peer –to-peer saliva swapping?

Nice set of floppies!

Your homepage or mine?

Nope, not an iPod in my pocket, I’m just happy to see you.

Sci-Fi Geek

I may look like an Ewok but I’m all Wookie where it counts baby!

Your mouth says “Shields up!”, but your eyes say, “Hull breach imminent!”

Tell me of this thing you humans call (pause) love.

Once you make love to a man with Vulcan ears on you never go back.

Why don’t we head to my bedroom, peel back my Star Wars sheets, and discover what a true Jedi can do with his light sabre?

Gross

If you were a booger I’d pick you first.

Did you fart, cause you blew me away.

Hey…somebody farted. Let’s get out of here.

My love for you is like diarrhea, I just can’t hold it in!

Creepy

Excuse me, but does this smell like chloroform to you?

Baby, you are so fine I could put you on a plate and sop you up with a biscuit.

(Walk up to someone and bite them anywhere) Sorry, taking a bite out of crime. [WHAT?] Well it has to be illegal to look that good!

If a fat man puts you in a bag at night, don’t worry I told Santa I wanted you for Christmas.

What’s a nice girl like you doing in a dirty mind like mine?

You know, if we cut off your arms, you’d look just like Venus de Milo

10 Dont’s in Online Dating: How NOT to meet someone online

Wednesday, June 22nd, 2011

When joining an online dating site, you want to give people some information about yourself that will help them decide if you are a potential match.  However there are a lot of dont’s in dating in general, but here are the top 10 dont’s in online dating.

1. Don’t give your life story via e-mail

There is no more of a turn off when a person can’t stop talking about themselves. Talking to much can be seen as being needy, so keep the messages reasonably short and never ramble.

2. Don’t start the sex talk

Another big turn off is when someone starts talking about intimacy before the relationship has gotten there.  All in good time.  Unless you are on an adult dating site looking for the same thing, then keep the bedroom talk to yourself until you are both ready.

3. Don’t lie

It is so easy to make stuff up when you are online, but if you want an actual date and a possible relationship, a lie will be a huge wall in the future.  If you don’t feel like your income is high enough or something like that, just upsell something else about yourself.  Be truthful and honest, and if they are only after your money, it’s probably not a good fit anyways.

4. Don’t over IM or text

I’m not saying you shouldn’t use the technology available in today’s society.  You should, but not overly so.  This is like being up in someone’s face all of the time.  Texting, emailing or IMing constantly can turn out to be a real nuisance.  It’s a tough balance, but you should be able to tell if a conversation via one of these media is going well enough to send more messages.

5. Don’t spread yourself to thin

While on an online dating site, it is very possible to date more than one person at a time.  But if you are courting too many people, it can become confusing or you could easily make mistakes in your conversations.

6. Don’t be too eager for a face to face

This is along the same thoughts of a couple of the previous dont’s.  If you ask for a meetup too early you may never hear from you interest again.  The general rule is to wait a week after your first contact with your love interest before asking about the big face to face meeting.

7. Don’t give your personal info up

I feel like I shouldn’t even have to list this one, but there is so much fraud out there you really need to protect yourself from cons and the like.  You will know when it’s time to share the more personal information, but never put financial or login info out there for anyone to find or steal.

8. Don’t go out with someone simply for “practice.”

Only go out with people you think you could be attracted to; physically and intellectually. Dating someone you aren’t into for practice is like cooking a recipe you know you hate. You’ll dirty your dishes, but you won’t have anything to eat.

9. Don’t take it personally

Online rejection can happen.  If it does, move on to the next one, and find love there.  Staying hung up on a rejection can and will affect your ability to meet new prospective love interests.

10. Don’t have clichés in your profile

Everyone likes music and beaches.  Be original and people that have similar interests will find you, and vice versa.

 

Hopefully this list will help you find someone like yourself when you join an online dating site?  What are some other “Dont’s” that we missed?

Top 10 Gay TV Characters

Wednesday, June 8th, 2011

There have been a multitude of openly at not so openly gay characters on the small screen for decades, but only in the last few years have we seen some of the funniest, most serious and most well written gay male characters. From ground breakers to laugh makers, from witches to gangsters, these 10 characters are the best of the best, and we salute them with this list.

Will Truman (Will & Grace)

Will & Grace ran on TV for eight wonderfully hilarious seasons. Will was the more serious lawyerly type, with a few small neuroses and BFFs with Grace.  Always getting along with Grace, their antics always made for great television.

Kurt (Glee)

Glee as a television show itself has fostered a huge advancement of the LGB agenda into the general conversation of the nation as a whole. Kurt is the boy with the soprano voice who once was picked on by the jocks, but now is friends with one and gaining more confidence in every episode.

Jack McFarland (Will & Grace)

Jack was the crazy one. Always with a plan and enjoying snickering at other’s pitfalls. One of the funniest characters in all sitcoms of all time.  Now he will be playing one of the Three Stooges in the remaking of the classic characters.

Marc St. James (Ugly Betty)

A dirty rotten scoundrel who took pleasure in others pain. Not exactly who I would think is top gay material, but he had his moments.  It’s a shame this show is no longer on television.  It really got off to a fast start, but slowed down as it lost viewers.

Jack McPhee (Dawson’s Creek)

I might be dating myself, but as a young college boy, this guy was the shiznit. One of he first gay characters that I remember, he had to deal with a lot of demons on television before a lot of gay television characters were introduced.

Sam Adama (Caprica)

OK, I’m a techy and a nerd, bite me. Caprica is a futuristic past kinda like Star Wars, and one of the main characters’ brother (Sam) has a complete gay family. In sci-fi that just seems like the norm, which brings it into the norm for us.

Lafayette Reynolds (True Blood)

Who doesn’t love Vampire shows these days. This is the grown up version of the Twilight saga with better characters, acting, and writers.  Lafayette is the overt male hooker with some sort of witch tendencies that are about to show themselves in the upcoming season.  This show is incredibly popular and one of HBO’s current offerings.

Cameron Tucker (Modern Family)

Cameron is the chubbier of the pair of the best of what makes Modern Family. He and his man adopted a Korean baby and they clash over everything, but make it work. Cameron is the dry humor guy most of the time.  Cameron screaming like a woman to break his baby out of a locked car is one of my favorite scenes.

Mitchell Pritchett (Modern Family)

Mitchell is the more high strung guy who has to deal regularly with his “masculine” father and is more defensive of the life. He sometimes works himself into a corner on some of the craziest subjects.  Physically smaller than Cameron, Mitchell is still the “man” of the house.

Max Blum (Happy Endings)

As of late, Max is my favorite character.  and that’s why he makes this list. I’m a guy like him, I like sports, I’m not effeminate, and I like guys. To be gay doesn’t mean change who you are to fit that mold from more than one side. Max is more real than most closet gay men want to admit, trust me.

 

That is the Top 10 list of the Top 10 gay television characters. While this list is in no way perfect, I feel these are some of the best performances on television over the past 20-30 years.  Who did we miss?  Add your additions in the comment section!